Today is Valentine's Day, as I'm sure most of us know. (If you're the clueless guy who's missed all the ads, all the pink and red decorations in stores, and all the hints from your better half, you'd better run and try to save yourself!)
If you're in a relationship and can expect to receive roses or candy or jewelry or a mushy card - or all of the above - that's great. But we've all been through Valentine's Days alone, and it's so hard when you feel left out, when there are no heart-shaped boxes of chocolates or bouquets of beautiful flowers for you.
And I think it's undoubtedly hardest for those who've been widowed, who won't ever see the love of their life again in this life.
I know a woman who lost her husband of nearly 50 years this past summer. I visited with her recently, and her heart is utterly broken. I can't imagine how difficult the past few weeks of build-up and onslaught have been for her, let alone how painful today will be as society pointedly reminds her, and others like her, of their aloneness.
While others may be offering romantic recipes for candlelit dinners, I want those who are alone on Valentine's Day - those who are wistful about being alone on Valentine's Day, I should clarify - to know that I offer my sympathy. So much of a fuss is made about this "Hallmark holiday," with no thought to those who are taunted about not being part of the "in" crowd.
And so today I'm offering a recipe that serves one - one very special, one fabulous, one perfectly glorious person ... you!
There's no reason you should be denied your chocolate fix. There's no reason you shouldn't get to enjoy something special. This "Brownie in a Mug" recipe offers no expectation that there should be someone else to share it with. And it also doesn't offer an entire pan of brownies to lure you into the temptation of eating too many.
Today is a day where you'll be thinking of the one you've lost, the one whose hand you wish you could be holding, the one whom you wish you could still say "good morning" and "goodnight" and - especially - "I love you" to. You deserve your very own personal chocolate brownie, warm and rich, just to make you smile and feel special.
Brownie in a Mug
2 tablespoons flour
2 tablespoons sugar
1-1/2 tablespoons cocoa powder
1/2 teaspoon baking soda
pinch of kosher salt
1-1/2 tablespoons oil
3 tablespoons milk
1 tablespoon flavoring (vanilla, coffee, rum, liqueur, etc.)
whipped cream, for serving
Combine all ingredients in a microwave-safe mug; stir to combine well. Microwave on "high" for 90 seconds, until the brownie is set and looks as though it was baked. Let rest for 1 minute; it will sink a bit. (This isn't a stellar specimen of aesthetic beauty, but it's luscious flavor makes up for that!)
Top with whipped cream, if desired.
Serves 1 exceptional person who deserves a treat today.
love this....happy v-day to you too!
ReplyDeleteGreat post, Mary! There have been many times in my life when I thought Valentine's day was some sort of cruel joke that couples played on single people! Now, it's just another day. I like to think that I spend the year giving love to those that are closest to me....I don't need one single day - I need a year! lol
ReplyDeleteLove the brownie in a mug.. how could you not? it's a brownie... in a mug!!!
A perfectly proportioned brownie...in a mug....for those of us who eat every bite of brownies that are made whether it's in a big pan or a mug. Love this idea. Like Jenn said...How could you not? Happy Valentine's Day, my friend. Much love!
ReplyDeleteHappy Valentine's Day Mary! The post was excellent and so true. With or without someone there to give you something today, you still need some chocolate :),
ReplyDeleteMiriam@Meatless Meals For Meat Eaters
What a beautiful and touching post, Mary! You're a kind heart who remembers that there are many out there who are suffering from loneliness. Lovely Valentine and great photo. :-)
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